Are you a good conversationalist? What makes someone a good conversationalist? Being a good conversationalist is important in every context, be it in business, social, or dating. 你是不是一名好的健谈者？什么能让你变得健谈呢？无论在何种情况下，作为一名好的健谈者都是非常重要的，无论是商业、还是社交或是约会。
I don't think there are any “tricks” or shady techniques you have to apply to be a great conversationalist. Below are ten timeless rules I apply to all my conversations:我认为要想成为好的健谈者，不需要任何的“招数”或不正当的手法。
genuinely interested in the person。对谈话的人真正感兴趣
Who is this person? What's on his/her mind? What does he/she enjoy doing? What motivates him/her in life? These are the questions I have for every single person I meet. Since people form the core of my life purpose （to help others grow）， my genuine interest in people, from who they are to what they do, comes naturally. 这个人是谁？他/她在想什么？他/她喜欢做什么？什么激励着他/她的生活？我每遇见一个人，我都会想这样的问题。由于人们形成了我生活目标的核心（帮助他人成长）， 我对他人的兴趣，从他们是谁到他们做什么，就很自然地产生了。
Such genuine interest, not an artificial one, is essential to making a conversation fly. If you are not interested in the other person, then why speak to him/her to begin with? Move on to someone you really want to talk to. Life is too short to be spent doing things you don't like。这样的兴趣是发自内心的.，而不是虚假的， 这是让谈话出彩的必要条件。如果你对他人不敢兴趣，为什么要和他/她说话呢？去和你真正想谈话的人说话。生活苦短，不要把它浪费在你不喜欢的事情上。
